Random thoughts on Change

Change...such a big word, but so elusive as the word itself. I cannot quite grasp it because well, it's changing... What is Change? What constitutes Change?

Is it pre-determined or do we have a choice?

Some things just happen and we adapt. But I am inclined to think that some things we can do something about... we can facilitate change. We can make things happen. When to let it be and when we need to act, is that sacred space that requires wisdom.

Change is always happening, always...even in subtle, quiet ways, we do not notice, escapes our attention. What is there to hold on to? What is never changing?...

Given the premise, that everything changes...so holding lightly things is the best recourse...But what to do with people, relationships...

We always must make the most out of what available time we have. Enjoy each other but also give spaces to grow...How do people change and not grow apart? Is there something that doesn't change at the core? Is there a common ground upon which relationships can thrive even when the externals change (or even something within themselves). We all change but I believe our core does not. There is something definitely unchanging about the essence of who we really are. And that gives one comfort amidst the uncertainties of the world. Isn't it that we always say Be who you are. If the self is constantly changing, then who am I? But there really is a true you, and somehow in the great scheme of things, it doesn't change -- your essence (call it dna), call it spirit, for Christians, it is the soul. If one believes in God, it knows it is created for a purpose. If one doesn't, it knows it's natural dna imprint does not change from conception.

But what doesn't really change aside from our DNAs, spirit or soul? I reckon it's that tiny detail called -- History.

When we've got history, we can grow together but never grow apart... unless we want to.
How does one build a good history, a good foundation...

it's a moment by moment thing...it's the daily seeds of kindness, understanding, patience, gentleness, and compassion...

i know these are all ideals, but they work. in an ever changing world (hopefully for the better) we can hold on to shared history (whether in a personal or a global level) and you know what i bet we can make a better history given what we have now... this is when we make things happen.

...On a personal note, we can hold on to good memories, while leaving regrets behind. But now -- -- no matter how temporary now is...we can build something good and lasting at least for the next generation to work upon, give them a sort of a head start, a new beginning...

A good foundation/history...that hopefully transcends time and space and change... it's something metaphysical, something spiritual. after all matter decays...but I have to say something remains...

More appropriately, Someone. Like the air we breathe, we can't see, but it is definitely There.